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Mom Hair Problems

When I was pregnant, I didn’t color my hair black as usual. By the time we took our newborn photos, I had about nine months of reddish brown roots and black ends.


Roots drive me crazy. I usually want all my hair to be the same, shiny color. I also like to have a little edge, so I always go back to black.

However, once I had the baby, I became obsessed with going back to my natural color. We have a new house and I didn’t want ruin the bathroom dying my hair black at home. You know how messy hair color is! And it’s too expensive to keep going to the salon every few months. I can’t justify the cost.

I went for a hair consultation and decided that I didn’t want to spend hours in the salon, away from my newborn, undergoing color correction. Also, my hair was so healthy and I know the bleach would damage it. So I left the color alone and decide to chop my hair:

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It looked great when I left the salon, but once I started to style it in real life, I began to regret the chop. Usually, I love short hair. But I think the pregnancy weight gain in my face made me hate the way I looked. And the ends always curled under, which I hate.

I decided to go back to black a few months later:

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I felt like myself again!  One of my favorite things about black hair is that I can wear any shade of lipstick- red or hot pink- to pop. And, I can rock my blue eyeglasses. Black complements everything.

Now, since I became a mom, I don’t have time to sit and blow-dry my hair every day. And I’ve found that the shorter my hair is and the more layers I have in it, the longer it takes to style. So I’ve been letting it grow out and air dry naturally curly. And I feel boring!

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For months, I’ve been pondering going back to my natural color and adding in some balayage and ombre combo. Something I haven’t done before, though in my 20s I did go platinum blonde for a while. I feel like it might help me feel youthful and cool, even if I have long, air dried hair.

Looks I’ve been considering:

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I went for another consultation and was told that the color correction will pull my hair to a reddish shade that I most likely won’t like because black always pulls to red. Then, I will have to live with that hair color for six to eight weeks until the highlights can be done. I booked the first appointment and then canceled.

I fear the color might not be what I want and then I’ll look like every other soccer mom with highlights.

I’m so torn! I am hoping I’ll like my hair better once I get a fresh cut and update my layers.  Then I’ll see where to go from there.

Since becoming a mom, I’ve neglected keeping up with myself. Hair care is expensive and time consuming. I don’t want to spend hours on a Saturday in the salon when the weekends are my only time I get to be in full-fledged mommy mode. Right now, it’s easier for me to let my hair grow longer so it can dry messy and still be presentable. The only problem is, I don’t feel like myself.

Motherhood is a constant battle for beauty. I’m not someone who lets her appearance go, but I’m not super high maintenance either.

I have a feeling I am going to play it safe and go back to black, but I’m giving myself another month to decide!

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Navigating life as a wife, mommy of two babies (Genevieve-3, Luca-infant) and two rescued fur-babies (Lulu and Gracey), and full-time public relations maven. I got divorced in my 20s and wrote a book about it (, have Epstein Barr Virus/chronic fatigue syndrome/ Systemic Exertion Intolerance Disease, live in a renovated log cabin in NJ, can't cook, quit breastfeeding after four weeks and have no regrets, taught my daughter to say "tattoo" and recognize diamonds before she turned one, call soap operas as my guilty pleasure, and have a little rainbow baby boy who adores his sister. Instagram @ hellojoelle Twitter @ChippedNailsMom Email chippedpolishandpattycake at

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